Blog posts from a friend.

As I was reading my regular Monday morning e-mail from my dear, dear friend Flighty, it occurred to me how much of an impact blogging and the bloggers we interact with have on our lives.

My daughter Andrea sits her final exam tomorrow.  She will then leave the school and walk through the gates for the last time.  What an achievement… I don’t mean to leave school; I think I mean what an achievement for my daughter, Andrea.  Friends who have been around a while, in the days when blogging was as required as breathing, may remember this post.  My daughter was diagnosed with Hypothyroidism in 2003 when she was 8 years of age.  The same year I lost my mam.  The funny thing  is, I lost my mam in October and Andrea was diagnosed in the December and my mam never even knew she was ill, or how ill she was.  She just loved her. 

I remember after the diagnosis she was prescribed (T4) Thyroxin for life.  I could never imagine the changes that would occur in a very short time.  My daughter blossomed.  She was now able to do all of the things that she had never ever thought she would be able to.  Swimming, bike riding, tree climbing, running, skipping… They all sound like such normal activities; most of us take for granted the ability to do these things.  All wonderful things but I was warned that her schoolwork would suffer….

In her final parents meeting at JuniorSchool I spoke with her teacher, Mr Woodhouse. He told me that Andrea was not going to reach her potential.  He told me she would make remedial classes at best in all subjects.  I was astounded.  Doomed to fail, no hope, no offer of help, no kind words of optimism.  FAILURE!  It’s hard to hear… It’s hard for your child to hear those remarks.  I remember leaving the demountable buildings with Andrea’s little hand tightly held in mine.  I would not cry. 

It takes time for that kind of information to sink in, what I had been told did not make any sense to me.  I had (and still have) two very bright children. Reading and writing as quick ,if not quicker than their peers.  Andrea was singing the alphabet when she was two.  NO. The teacher may have had no hope but we had bucketfuls!

I can’t even remember how it all started.  I remember it was when we didn’t have a home computer.  Flighty did weekly blog posts full of interesting things about the planet, animals, festivals of celebration and much, much more.  Something for everyone but I knew he always had Andrea’s interests at the forefront of his mind.  We were regulars at our local library, booking the computer for an hour at a time.  She was able to read, research, comment and thank him for the wonderful posts full of vital information that reached her far quicker than it reached most.  It was as if it was a handful of delicious food held out to her and she would reach out for it and gobble it up greedily.

So here we are.  Andrea has sat just almost  all of her exams, she has studied (and on occasions, crammed!) so she is able to sit in the exam hall for each examination knowing that she has done everything she could.  Her projected grades are good and her incentive was piqued with the knowledge of monetary reward from her Mam and Dad should she reach her goals……

 Now we wait.  Andrea has chosen to stay at school, a sixth form centre in the city where she will study for A levels in English, English Literature, Geography and History.  Those are her favourite subjects and ones which she excels at.  All of those subjects are related to the important years of those blog posts from a friend.

  

  

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19 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Bill
    Jun 27, 2011 @ 13:02:31

    Good luck to you, Andrea. I wish you health and happiness throughout your life. I know you will be very good at whatever you attempt.

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    • daffy
      Jun 27, 2011 @ 13:15:11

      Thanks Bill, I’ll pass on your good wishes. I don’t think even she knows what she wants to do in the future but at least she has a couple of years more before she has to decide. Hope you are keeping well. We are having an unusually hot day today!

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      • Bill
        Jun 27, 2011 @ 14:01:30

        I had problems with my thyroid for the last 15 years. First hypo, then hyper. They ended up radiating it and now I take synthroid every day. It’s no big deal and I’ve felt better for it since it happened five years ago.

        Been a strange spring this year: first heavy rain and then very hot then almost pleasant. Unusual, to say the least.

    • daffy
      Jun 27, 2011 @ 14:56:45

      I know it’s not uncommon, I think the unusual thing about it was Andrea being so young and the fact that the gland had gone from working perfectly to completely shutting down. As long as Andrea takes her tablets daily there should be no reason as to why she just continues doing whatever she wants to as normal.
      We have a thunderstorm at the moment here and the rain is just starting to fall! Great big droplets!

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  2. Flighty
    Jun 27, 2011 @ 14:08:08

    What a lovely heartfelt post!
    Having made that promise to do a regular Thursday post they became so important for me to do, and to ensure that they were enjoyable and educational for us all. Doing them certainly revived my own interest in various subjects that had long been dormant.
    I can’t believe how the intervening years seem to have passed by so quickly but throughout that time I have cherished friendships like ours that came about through blogging.
    My fingers are crossed that Andrea gets good exam results, as I’m sure she will, and then goes on to do even better with her A levels. She’ll do well whatever she ends up doing and continue to make her mum proud. xx

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    • daffy
      Jun 27, 2011 @ 15:07:07

      Even reading the post I made back in 2008, I hadn’t realised how much time had passed by! It really does creep up on you…time .
      If anyone doubts the ability of online friendships being no different to any other friendship forged in daily life then perhaps they should see how our little blogging communities have thrived.
      I think that the times Andrea spent looking at the blog posts and the time we spent in the library really helped her overcome alot. I think it helped her to find the enjoyment in learning. So you are the person who put the enjoyment back into achievement! There is a nice title for you.
      I don’t think I can ever say thank you enough… it just brings it all to fore again when you see where she is now and how she got there. xxxx

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  3. nikkipolani
    Jun 28, 2011 @ 13:53:53

    I remember those lovely posts Flighty did. And all the poignant posts you used to write about Andrea and her herculean efforts to beat those predictions. And she has.

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    • daffy
      Jun 30, 2011 @ 19:04:29

      Oh Nikki I wish I had preserved those posts! I think it would be good to read some of our early exploits again. She really has done well and overcome alot. (We’ve just been shopping for a christening outfit for my gorgeous great neice.) xx

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  4. Mo
    Jun 30, 2011 @ 08:25:22

    Hi, I came here through Flighty’s Blog. I am a recent follower of his interesting posts. It is lovely to read how this odd world of Blogging can impact our lives.
    I just wanted to say what a wonderful post this is, indeed what a wonderful story it is.
    Congratulations to both of you for coming so far. I wish you both health and happiness over the coming years.

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    • daffy
      Jun 30, 2011 @ 19:07:37

      Hello Mo, how kind of you to bob on over here and say hi! I can say, hand on heart, Flighty was my very first blog friend who turned into a friend-friend and I’ve been very thankful for him ever since. (I usually say he’s my oldest friend and he knows I’m being cheeky!) xx

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  5. Jenny
    Jun 30, 2011 @ 11:20:37

    What a great story you tell! What a guy Flighty must be to have such an influence on a young life!!
    Congrats to Andrea for overcoming this huge obstacle and to you Tracey for making it happen!
    I love our blogging and FB friendship!!
    xoxoxox

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    • daffy
      Jun 30, 2011 @ 19:12:43

      Hello Jenny…. oh and you would be my second oldest blog friend… hehehehehe *runs* Oh he is a sweetie. Thanks for your kind words, she has done very well. We’ve just been out shopping. Dress, undies, bag, flower for her hair….the lot! She’s better dressed than I am! xxx

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  6. Jennyta
    Jun 30, 2011 @ 15:25:05

    How lovely to catch up with you and your lovely daughter again, Daffy. Can’t believe where the time has gone! Thank you for your good wishes and I wish Andrea all the best in her future education. She’s done so well. :)

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    • daffy
      Jun 30, 2011 @ 19:29:47

      Hello again Jenny and thank you for the very kind words. I can’t believe where the time has gone either! I often think of you Jenny, I hope things are going better for you. We have a mutual friend in Gemmak and I sometimes see you other there. Take care and thanks again xxxx

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  7. Tracie
    Jul 05, 2011 @ 18:27:46

    Daffy!!! I’m back. I couldn’t stay away anymore. I miss everyone too much. I enjoyed this post very much, and it just served to emphasize how much we blogging friends come to mean to one another. So – as we promised once long ago – I’ll keep going if you will!

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  8. Philip
    Jul 09, 2011 @ 23:03:38

    Well you certainly have reasons to be proud of your daughter’s accomplishment academically. Hard work and determinations as well as much support from those who love you go a long way to academic success.

    I was interested in your daughter’s illness at such a young age. My mother and grandmother suffered from Myxedema, (total stopping of the thyroid gland). I was old enough to remember the symptoms of my mother before she found out her condition. The changes were dramatic once she began taking thyroxin.

    My grandmother had crawled into bed to die as the result of her condition. A doctor finally said he heard of an experimental treatment being used by a doctor in Toronto. She dragged herself out of bed and got there. Within two weeks of taking thyroxin she had no more symptoms and was able to continue her life..

    It is hard to imagine the effect of hypothroidism in a young child still growing. Modern medicine kept your charming daughter for you. I know from all you write that she is a very special daughter and companion for you.

    Needless to say, I make sure my doctor keeps track of my thyroid function.

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  9. thedailydish
    Jul 10, 2011 @ 15:48:50

    What a lovely tribute – not only to Andrea but to your blogging friendship/s. I am so fortunate to have met you through our blogs — and knowing what a profound, positive influence others have had on your daughter – just through writing – is amazing. Congrats and very best wishes to Andrea, and you & your family, Trace — and long live blogging buddies!!!

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  10. Harry
    Jul 10, 2011 @ 21:05:41

    …Dear Daffy….lovely to know that your daughter is moving along in her life, despite everything.

    I started blogging in Aug 2008 and had produced 28 postings before I got any reply from someone I did not know. It was my 28th blog and I was wondering whether to continue and it was you who commented on my post about Remembrance Sunday. i was overjoyed that there was someone else out there. and there has been no going-back since. I have made contact with so many lovely people from all over the world…and it was probably because of you that I kept going….so thanks for that!

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  11. Tara
    Jul 13, 2011 @ 13:20:58

    Hi Daffy! Congrats to your daughter for working so hard! Have you heard anything yet about her final grades?

    I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism back in high school. Amazing what one gland can do when it’s not functioning properly, isn’t it?

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