Why? Why? Why?
This was not going to be my post this evening. I’m never sure what my posts are going to be about, I’m not a big planner. I let the days go by and usually something or someone stays with me and I write around that event/person….
I live in a lovely small village. One street, one public house, no shops, lots of fields and trees. So much wildlife, birds, rabbits, cheeky squirrels, hedgehogs… flowers,,,when the rabbits don’t much them. It is idyllic. Our garden is big, I have to be honest, my husband has ambitions, he has dreams and perhaps they are going to take a while, but our garden is going to represent our little bit of Heaven one day.
My mam died just over a year after we moved into this house. She was so proud. She thought I was the Queen! Her daughter had a conservatory! We didn’t have that when I was living at home, I loved what we had but she felt immense pride and satisfaction that I/we had managed to create a life for our selves filled with what she considered to be luxuries. When she visited me, which was often, she would take up residence in her glass palace and watch with wonder as the story of nature played out before her eyes.
My husband and I had decided that once we had some spare money, the time and when the weather was on our side we would start to create an area of the garden that would be dedicated to my mum and in memory of her. We’d have a garden seat, we’d plant her favourite flowers and shrubs, she loved herbs so we would make sure there was a herb garden and all she wanted was a rockery….
We have planted a few things, mainly things that add colour, more textured plants and a couple of little trees… It will take a while to get it to look anywhere near what we imagine it to be like but by planting a few things we can give them time to get established… The chair we bought was perfect. In my mind I could see my mam, glass of (cheap) wine in hand, (She loved Lambrini!) enjoying her surroundings, sun shining… It was a peaceful, serene and heart-warming image.
Imagine my horror when I awoke this morning to scenes of utter cruel and thoughtless vandalism. I can’t ever imagine why anyone would want to create havoc, to destroy others property for no other reason than for their entertainment.
So sad.
Tags: Creating, Cruel, Destruction, Love, Mam, Memoriam, Memories, Mindless, Vandalism, Vandals, Wildlife
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November 15, 2008 at 8:42 pm
I am so sorry. What a vicious thing to do. It hurts just to read about it, so I know your pain must be very sharp.
I hope that you will go on with your project and not let this meanness stop you.
(((((Daffy)))))
November 15, 2008 at 9:10 pm
Oh NO! That is a sturdy bench and someone would have to attack it with a vengeance to break that wood. I am SO sorry, hon.
November 15, 2008 at 9:37 pm
Hello Ruth, thanks for the hugs. Just what the doctor ordered I think! I am never surprised by things that happen nowadays, I only pray that what they did to our property is their last vengeful act. There is always hope.
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Hayden, hi and thanks for your kind words. It was a pretty seat… funny thing is, it’s still in the garden. I couldn’t let my husband throw it out and I guess a part of me hopes that those responsible may see it and feel some remorse perhaps? Regret there actions?
November 15, 2008 at 9:55 pm
Sad: you were honouring your mother’s memory and then this happens. There’s no rational explanations. The kids (I assume) who did this aren’t full-fledged human beings yet.
November 15, 2008 at 9:59 pm
AC I think you may be correct in your thinking. I had a word with our neighbourhood watch co-ordinator and he said that over the past few weeks, kids, teenagers perhaps, had started to gather at the opening of the wood on evenings. Drinking, Drugs, Foul language… you know the sort of behaviour. I can’t excuse them for what they did, I just hope they move through this phase quickly.
November 15, 2008 at 10:09 pm
I’m glad at least that you hadn’t completed all your lovely plans and seen those things destroyed. But it’s still disappointing that people would behave in such a destructive way.
November 15, 2008 at 10:17 pm
Oh, I’m so sorry! That just breaks my heart. Hopefully those thoughtless, destructive young people will grow out of wanting to destroy the beautiful things around them.
I loved hearing about your mom though, and how proud she was of what you and your family have achieved. You deserve all that is good in life.
November 15, 2008 at 10:19 pm
It’s hard to imagine such cruelty. A person should be able to put things in their own yard confident that they will be safe and respected.
November 15, 2008 at 10:23 pm
Nikki, you know, it may well be quite a time before we feel that we are anywhere close to creating something for mum but I don’t think that it really matters. (You are right though, it was bad enough to see the mess as it was, if it had been any worse I think I may have cried for longer!) I think we are going to put up a high fence now, something to break us up from the verge of wood. It’s a rickety old fence, as you can see that is there at the moment. The thing is, the rabbits live along that fence…. I know, that would solve the flower muching too but I kind of like my rabbit visitors. We’ll give it all some thought. It just made me sad.
) Laura, that is, I hope, going to be a future post. My mam absolutely loved it when we moved. My brother was so sick of hearing about my new house. (laughs) Even the lady in the Bakery new what colour what my rooms where and what flooring we were having put down! See? They can’t destroy my memories….
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Thanks Laura, I think I was over at your place while you were over here.
November 15, 2008 at 10:27 pm
Thomas, my point exactly, it wouldn’t matter if it was something that was going to be centred around my mam or if it was just a pice of old wood! The thing is it was ours, it was our property and it really bugs me that people think they have a divine right to destroy whatever they please. It’s mindless and it’s irritating. Of course it’s annoying but I know that it was _only _ property. We’ll get another chair, the next one will be different, but just as good in my imagination.
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November 15, 2008 at 11:07 pm
So sorry to see and hear about the damage done by those idiots, kids these days have no respect for other folks property, regrettably I longer have the set of outdoor video camera’s I used at the old place or I could have sent them to you, do you have a security light overlooking the garden? if not it might be a good idea to get one….
Pete
November 15, 2008 at 11:32 pm
To think I was going to grumble about some rubbish (including a drained botte of Lucozade) that some dummy left on top of the perfumes in Boots. That was bad enough, but I’d be very sad to get up and find someone had destroyed things in the garden or neighbourhood.
November 15, 2008 at 11:54 pm
I’m so sorry to see results of mindless behaviour in your back garden, especially when the bench was in honour of your mum. I loved reading the story of how your mum felt about your new house, having had a mum of my own who enjoyed seeing me set up house, and I often wonder how she’d like my little rose garden and fruit trees.
One thing though, your bench is not a write off. The slats that are broken can be replaced with new slats easily. There are screws holding them to the metal frame ~ similar wood slats can be bought and put in their place. Then you can put the bench in the conservatory until the fence is redone. I’ll be right over to help you…but, I’m sure, on second thought, your hubby will have no trouble fixing it 
Big hugs…Glo
A new fence might be a deterrent ~ barbed wire on the top or electric…oh sorry, I was just trying to teach the little beasts a lesson!
November 16, 2008 at 4:45 am
Daf, You have a heart of gold… how you could not post a post filled with sharp words is something to admire.
Hopefully someone fesses up and has to do some yard work as part of judgment.
November 16, 2008 at 9:28 am
Oh no! That must be so heartbreaking for you.
I despair of such wanton, mindless vandalism which seems to happen everywhere nowadays sadly.
Take care. xx
November 16, 2008 at 9:42 am
Daffy, I’ve found a camera but its a ‘dummy’ it did work once but died for some reason…. howz about a sunday drive and you can collect your pink elephant pillow too….LOL
November 16, 2008 at 2:14 pm
How can young people be so destructive I feel really upset for you. It’s awful that you have to put up a high fence to try and prevent any future vandalism. I hope you manage to get the seat repaired.
I love that you want to create something in memory of your mother, she obviously loved the time she spent with you so you have some happy memories. Stupid vandals can’t take these away.
Hugs
November 16, 2008 at 2:33 pm
Awwww, shoot. I’m so sorry that this has happened – sometimes people just suck. To have your property destroyed so senselessly must make you feel violated, but to have it be something that had such sentimental value is so much worse.
November 16, 2008 at 3:01 pm
i’m so sorry to read about this. it’s so sad, and your pain was tangible. i’m thinking of you.
November 16, 2008 at 4:02 pm
just popped across from Louise’s blog as I noticed that you are from county durham – not too far away from myself. So sorry to hear about the needless vandalism, I honestly don’t understand what pleasure anyone can gain from being so destructive. Take care Lisa x
November 16, 2008 at 4:46 pm
“I live in a lovely small village. One street, one public house, no shops, lots of fields and trees.”
I didn’t I know I knew someone who lived in Emmerdale!!!
Vandal in their disrespect for other’s property show they have little respect for themselves.
November 16, 2008 at 5:41 pm
Oh no! What a horrible thing to do but what you have to do is know you are a better person, that you have reapect and care and once you have gotten over their cruelty, mend it all, make it even more beatiful in memory of your dear Mam, let whoever perpetrated this nastiness know that you will not be beaten or put off! *hugs*
November 16, 2008 at 9:44 pm
Sorry. Buggers.
Did your mam like big, mean, vandal-eating dogs? Maybe you could add one of those to your gardening plans…
November 16, 2008 at 11:21 pm
That’s awful. I get upset when people throw their rubbish in our front garden but if they actually damaged or destroyed anything on our property, I would be furious and also sad. It’s much worse for you since they damaged your garden that you created to honour your mother’s memory. I’m so sorry.
November 17, 2008 at 12:51 am
Ohhhh, Daffy. That’s horrible!
What an awful thing to wake up to.
*hugs*
November 17, 2008 at 7:14 pm
Oh, poor Tracy, I’m so sorry. I’m sending you hugs and hot tea, maybe a new rose bush or two… there! I know how hard work gardening and landscaping is, it’s awful of someone to just come tear it up, it hurts. I remember when my step dad had this beautiful little rock garden with petunias all over it and two neighborhood kids came and tore the flowers out, strewing them all over the yard. It broke his heart. I guess we can just take comfort in the fact that it is utterly incomprehensible to us how someone would get enjoyment out of that. Perhaps you could put up a fence with low arches for the rabbits, sort of like cat doors?
November 17, 2008 at 7:15 pm
Oops, Tracey (I was upset… can’t believe I of all people flubbed that!)
November 18, 2008 at 6:45 am
Tracie, rabbit flaps! I like the idea of those.
) I’m feeling a bit better now, touch wood we have had nothing since and as soon as we get a chance we are going to sort it out, To be honest the garden itself is not at it’s best at the moment. Thanks for the kind words though.
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) I should have just gone to the Woolpack for a pint! 
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B&T Aw honey thanks xxx
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Maureen it is annoying, any kind of vandalism is just so upsetting, I often wonder how they would feel to be in the shoes of the recipient to their callous work but I guess they never think that deeply.
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Carol – Buggers indeed!
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Gemmak, I think that’s the answer, make it as nce as we can, this is just a minor setback! Thanks for hugs. Loved the Hammy pics!
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Philip. I’m not far from Emmerdale,
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Lisa, thanks, Lucky for me, the garden gave me back alot of hope and fun on Sunday which I may post about soon. Thanks for the visit neighbour!
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Curly thanks hon.
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dog-geek, I might take Glo’s suggestion and put an electric fence up! hehe did I say that…. I seem to remember my mam liked crocodiles….
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Chris, when we get it finished, finally, eventually it will be twice as nice. I’ll have to share it with you but I guess with what little time we have and daylight it might be in the Spring now.
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Hi Chippy, I think a light might be idea, as long as it doesn’t aide them in any way. Next door have one but their garden is closed off. I might get a bunch of prickly bushes!
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Cheers Flighty, wait til you hear about Sunday in the garden, I know you get as upset as I do and my Sunday will certainly brighten up your day! I’ll post soon. Be ready to say “Awwww” xx
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Stephanie, You wouldn’t think I had a heart of gold if you heard what I was calling the little devils on Saturday! hehe. I was a bit of a devil myself!
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Hi Glo, thanks, you are right, it will mend, the chair itself is quite hardy and I’m sure my hubby will be able to sort the slats out. All is not lost. Big dogs? mmmmmm I think I like that. (Although I’d spoil them and let them sleep on my bed so they probably wouldn’t help much!
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Diddums, you are right though, the mindlessness is all over the place, some people just don’t care about anything. Or is just that they don’t care about things that belong to others?
November 18, 2008 at 8:35 am
Thankfully it sounds as though it didn’t completely ruin your weekend.
I’m intrigued about Sunday!
A thorny hedge of some kind is a really good idea. That would keep morons out but be good for the wildlife. xx
November 18, 2008 at 1:50 pm
I would say to try and grow a thorny hedge, but in the meantime make sure you have some sort of boundary to keep these moronic people off your property. I am just so sorry that this heartless act of vandalism has been inflicted on something which held much meaning to you. Don’t give up, your idea for an area in your garden for your mum seems like a fine one to me. x
November 19, 2008 at 1:31 pm
hiya long time no speak my pc broke and bottom of priorities to get new one..(fraggle if you remember me?)
so now armed with new pc ready to take on world and blogging again..
i’m sorry so mindless and totally selfish people ruined something that meant so much to you,willhave to catch up but as pc broke lost all email addresses xx
November 21, 2008 at 6:07 pm
Let’s hope it was teenagers. At least they have an excuse. People are so thoughtless and stupid. I’m so sorry Daff..
December 12, 2008 at 2:48 am
That’s terrible. Once we had our house broken into and it was terrible although there was no vandalism just a robbery. Our dog’s rope was being cut 6 inches below her collar this spring, so we moved her. We wondered too what would possess people to do such a thing. I hope you got things straightened out now.